“It’s not that deep” is a phrase that has become an everyday saying for me. If something is going wrong in my life, that is my response. Some may view this as an unhealthy or maybe even toxic response, but I disagree. 

For example, say a person’s actions disappoint me. My response is “it’s not that deep.” It isn’t that deep because there are so many people out there that likely won’t disappoint you. You could even look at it by thinking about all the times that person hasn’t disappointed you. When you start to think deeper into it, it’s just one moment in your whole life. It will be ok. And even if this person continues to disappoint you, know your worth and walk away, because it’s not that deep. There are so many more people out there in the world. 

This phrase can also apply when it comes to embarrassment. Trust me, I’m a very embarrassed person, but this phrase reminds me that people can only have so much going on in their brain. They are not going to be constantly thinking about the one time you tripped in front of them, because even though you might have been embarrassed in the moment, and they might have laughed at you in the moment, there is so much more going on in the world, making that singular moment not that embarrassing and also not that deep. 

The main reason behind this thought process was the first day I heard someone justify something by the fact that we live on a floating rock. Then once I started to think about it, I started to process that I am one of the 8 billion people on this earth. This may sound negative, but what makes me so special? Nothing. Every one of those 8 billion people is paying so much more attention to themselves than they are to me, proving further that it is not that deep. 

I would call this phrase my personal coping mechanism, and honestly this phrase is what keeps me sane. It keeps me from overthinking other people’s actions towards me and helps me get over things that I need to let go of. Although I will say there are some negative effects of this phrase. People may judge you for having this mindset, but it’s just a mindset at the end of the day it’s not affecting them. Also, I recommend not letting this phrase cause you to lose motivation, yes things are not that deep and things happen for a reason, but some things you need to make happen no matter how not deep you think it is. “It’s not that deep” does not mean don’t do any of your work, don’t graduate high school and drop everyone in your life. It is quite literally just a way to cope with disappointment. One that I recommend using!