When I tell people that I am an avid enjoyer of the reality show, Love on the Spectrum, I always get mixed reactions. On one hand, those who also frequently watch the show are excited and begin to talk about their personal love of it. On the other hand, those who have never watched it or have been combing the Reddit threads are more likely to judge and claim that the show is stereotypical and in poor taste. However, in my opinion, Love on the Spectrum is a gentle and heartwarming way to step into the shoes of autistic people’s thoughts and feelings.
A little over a year ago, I had the absolute pleasure of working as a stage assistant for Jerry Habima Theater’s production of Into the Woods. Jerry’s Habima Theater program consists of industry professionals working alongside adults with developmental disabilities in order to produce and perform incredible musicals. I have been blown away by the amazing work these people are able to accomplish with both consistent determination and the belief that they can succeed. Through encouragement and guidance, each actor blossoms on the stage, impressing the audience as well as themselves in the ways that they are able to overcome their diagnoses.
This is how I feel as I watch Love on the Spectrum. Romantic relationships are daunting, even for those who are neurotypical. There is inevitable insecurity, anxiety, and discomfort in every relationship, making it especially difficult for individuals on the autism spectrum. However, the producers on the show, as well as Jennifer Cook, an autism expert hired to guide cast members through their dating life, are able to make romantic relationships seem achievable and less nerve-racking.
In addition, many cast members return to multiple seasons, making following their journeys even more inspiring. Take Connor Tomlinson, for example. A 26-year-old Kroger employee, Connor had never dated before entering onto the show and demonstrated a high level of anxiety with the daunting task of finding a partner. However, on season three of the show, Connor was able to open up to a new girl, Georgie, and appears excited and happy at the possibility of a future with her. Watching cast members grow and become more comfortable with dating is incredibly inspiring and heartwarming.
In my opinion, Love on the Spectrum is the kind of show that you cannot judge until you’ve watched at least a couple of episodes. It is virtually impossible not to become completely invested in the lives of each cast member and their stories. Love on the Spectrum is the perfect show for those who want to gain perspective and understanding for atypical individuals who merely have an alternative way of thinking than the rest of their peers. It encourages you to respect their struggles and be inspired by their resilience and determination.
