Many people have been rejected before in their lives or have been too afraid to ask someone out. The fact of the matter is that many are scared of rejection and find it difficult to work up the nerve to ask someone out, but Chamblee students who have completed this daunting task before have good advice for those who are looking to.
“Just do it. Ask them out! Don’t be a wuss. It’s better to know if they like you back than pine for a long time and have your heart shattered or worse. It’s better to just go in and get it over with so that you can be free of that burden instead of having a crush for a really long time for the chance that they may not even like you back,” said Frida Nieves (‘25).
As Nieves says, working up the nerve to ask someone out can be difficult, but it can ultimately be better to ask them out than to dwell on those feelings for too long.
“I would want to be asked out in a more private place without many people around, such as a park,” said Anna Sallach (‘26).
The personal preferences of the person you want to ask out also matter. While some want to be asked out in a small way with fewer people around, some may prefer a grand gesture.
“I would want to be asked out through a poem and flowers,” said Luka Melton (‘24).
There are also many ways to ask someone out that Chamblee students do not recommend for a variety of reasons.
“To be honest, I would want to be asked out relatively in private, especially if it’s somebody that I’m not attracted to, because I’m not gonna reject somebody in public. That would make me look like a jerk,” said William Owens (‘27).
Some people prefer a more casual way of being asked out.
“I would want to be asked out through a conversation perhaps,” said Angeline Shoemaker (‘26).
While asking out a friend may be easier and more casual, asking out a stranger is a different story altogether.
“When you ask out a stranger, you have no idea who they are or what they like. You’re just going in blind, and it can be easy to mess it up,” said Louis Russell (‘27).
When asking out a stranger, there is the possibility of not knowing anything about them, and that can lead some to not wanting to ask out or be asked out by strangers at all.
“I would probably want to be asked out by someone I know and not by some stranger and not have it be too serious,” said Melton.
On the other hand, for some, asking out a stranger may be easier.
“I feel like it’s more nerve-racking when asking out a friend, but with a stranger, you’ll never see them again, so it doesn’t really matter,” said Kimberly Kruglinski (‘26).
In the end, asking out someone varies from person to person, and the only way to know what they will say is to just ask them out.
“Just don’t make a big thing out of it,” said Russell. “Just try to be as casual as you can, and just do it.”
